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FAQ: My brother was very handsome as a man, will not he just be ugly as a woman?

by Trans-Kin on 12/12/12

Trans-Kin: A Guide for Family and Friends of Transgender People has Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ).

 

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Q: My brother was very handsome as a man, will not he just be ugly as a woman?

 

A: Women learn how to apply make-up, style their hair and dress well. Your brother will be learning these things too. He may be embarrassed at first to ask for help, but you can be a valuable resource to help him look the way he has always wanted.

 

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FAQ: Will my trans niece ever have a family?

by Trans-Kin on 12/05/12

Trans-Kin: A Guide for Family and Friends of Transgender People has Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ).

 

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Q: Will my trans niece ever have a family?

A: Remember: every trans person already has a family unless they have been disowned (unhappily many are). But this question probably means: Will she get married and have children? Yes, indeed, if she chooses to. There are as many ways to have a family, as there are people, because we live in a time of infinite possibilities. Many trans people will have life-long committed relationships, some will get married, others may choose to remain single, but have friends that they perceive as family (or all of the above). Many trans couples have children or decide to adopt. When your niece feels comfortable, she will share her plans for building a family with you. As PFLAG says, all it takes to make a family is love

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FAQ: My sister says she is transgender. Could she just be going through a phase?

by Trans-Kin on 11/27/12

Trans-Kin: A Guide for Family and Friends of Transgender People has Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ).

 

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Q: My sister says she is transgender. Could she just be going through a phase?

A: Some children enjoy playing with gender norms: the little girl who is the father when playing house with her friend and the little boy who wants a Barbie doll. This may be a phase the child goes through, but if it is consistent over a period of time, and the child insists that they are the other sex ("No, Mom, I am really a boy," when told to act more like a girl), then your sister may be transgender.

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FAQ: I feel like I am in a closet now that my trans significant other has come out? Should I tell my family and friends that she is trans, and if so how?

by Trans-Kin on 11/18/12

Trans-Kin: A Guide for Family and Friends of Transgender People has Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ).

 

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Q: I feel like I am in a closet now that my trans significant other has come out? Should I tell my family and friends that she is trans, and if so how?

 

A: Now you know, and it may become a heavy burden. What to do about what you know is a very personal decision; only you know the time and place to share this personal information. There are many factors to consider though: where you live, your family dynamics and the concerns of your trans significant other, to name just a few. But the feeling of being in a closet (unable to share who you really are with the significant people in your life) is very uncomfortable. It was for your trans loved one, and it will be for you too. What trans people often do is think carefully about who will be most accepting of their decision. This is the person they usually tell first, in order to practice coming out. You may need some assistance to decide when and how to come out of your closet. National organizations like PFLAG (Parents, Friends of Lesbians and Gays) and TYFA (TransYouthFamilyAllies) and others found in the resources section, as well as a good therapist can help with this process.

 

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FAQ: What pronoun should I use to refer to a trans person?

by Trans-Kin on 11/13/12

Trans-Kin: A Guide for Family and Friends of Transgender People has Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ).

 

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Q: What pronoun should I use to refer to a trans person?

 

A: It is best to ask the trans person themselves. Some trans people do not mind being called the gender they were born while they are transitioning (for instance, my daughter is transgender, she dresses like a man and is taking male hormones). Some trans persons want to be referred to as the gender they perceive themselves to be even while they are transitioning (my son is now my daughter, please call her by her new name, Debbie). Other trans people prefer a gender-neutral pronoun, like ze.  Just ask, it might open up a good conversation. Note: There is a pronoun chart in Trans-Kin that you might find helpful.

 

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